Here are five reasons why dating is too stressful. Before you read on, check out my Zazzle store.
We go for looks.
I understand if you’re not attracted to somebody, but it seems like your appearance is the deal breaker. When people go on dating websites or apps, they don’t even bother to read other people’s profiles. Instead, they instinctively swipe left or swipe right. You may be one of the very few people who actually read people’s profiles. But let’s be honest, even if you think you’ve found somebody that you may like, you’ll still swipe left, if you’re not attracted to that person. If that’s the case, it’s your loss.
There are women who are willing and have dated men who are shorter than they are. However, the shorter a man is, the smaller (pun intended) the chances he has of finding a woman. If you’re a man who’s 5’1, your chances of finding a woman who’s willing to date you are slim. On the flip side, some men may not date women who are under a certain height as well. Actually, regardless of your gender or sexual orientation, some people will only date people within a certain height range.
Nobody wants to meet organically
In my opinion, meeting people organically is the least stressful way to find a date. You meet somebody through a friend, and you hang out for a while and become friends. The thought of you and your new friend dating doesn’t even cross your mind. Eventually, you two realize that you like each other and you start to date. The problem is, nobody wants to meet organically.
We place our worth on a significant other.
Being single for a long time doesn’t devalue your worth to society. Deep down, though, we have this mentality that you’re nobody if you don’t have a significant other. We need to stop this mentality. Not only does it add stress when it comes to dating, but this mentality is just unhealthy.
We want to be loved
Everybody wants to feel loved, it’s in human nature. You want to find somebody who loves you for your soul. But until you find your one true love, you might as well love yourself. It’s not like you have anything to lose.
Why add this stress?
There is so much stress that we have to deal with every day.
- The economy is crap.
- There’s too much political tension.
- There’s too much crime.
- People are dying every day of diseases.
- You hate your job.
- You’re overworked and underpaid.
- Your kids are out of control.
- You’re an adult and your parents still treat you like you’re five years old.
- Your significant other abuses you.
- Your significant other cheated on you.
- You’re getting a divorce.
- There’s a death in the family.
- You’re suffering from a mental illness such as depression schizophrenia.
With all the stress that may be going on with your life, why would you add stress to your life by dating?
If dating is too stressful, my advice is to take an extended break from dating and focus on yourself. Remind yourself what guys and girls are missing out on, do things that you enjoy, etc.